When Mama Sita came
home from tabada market, she said, "Ang bana ba sa ako ig-agaw
nag-iring-iring man diay..."
Speaking of broken
marriage, it's quite common today or maybe even in the past years. I'd prefer
not to judge whoever on this kind of situation because there's no certainty
what will happen on my own. Maybe a time will come or let's just say an
incident will happen that would make both parties fall out of love. So what's
next? Maybe too, it's time for me to comment no more. Just an imagination of
being in a situation is quite tormenting. But, let me tell you wives out
there of my own simple recipe. Hep, hep, hep, I know I'm not in the position to
give a piece of something I'm not totally expert of. In fact it's just been
about five years of being together sharing both good and bad. Wanna know?
Anyway, I've been instilling this on my mind ever since that a husband behaves the
way a wife does. There, the simple word behave. Put it into actions and maybe
everything will turn out okay. We should learn also when to speak and when to
just let ourselves close-lipped and try hearing them out. It's true, husbands
are deadly beasts at times but we should be acquainted too of the art of
taming. How? Drown them with our overflowing kindness. Yes, marriage is
way too complicated to talk about because the journey itself is not at all
times smooth and easy to ride on. With so much intention, I won't talk much of
love and respect here because I know these two are present at the start.
Sustaining these is the trickiest part which I choose too not to dwell on more.
Let me just bring you instead the word misunderstanding. It is one common
reason why two people who started with so much love for each other will end up
tearing each other apart. For others, it may just be a little thing so they
care not to resolve before it gets worst. How I dealt with this? It may
sounds not too common but what I usually do every time my husband and I have an
argument to the extent of having me at the losing end, I just write a letter
and put it somewhere he can easily find. In a piece of paper of any kind, I
write how badly hurt I am and able to tell him of my own perception about
any conflict without him seeing me cry. Now with facebook around, I need
no more pen and paper to do so. I admit I'm not really good at expressing
myself through speech and somehow I thanked God for having such weakness. This
is so unsolicited I know, the fact that wives have different kinds of approach,
views and attitudes but if things I mentioned above would be of little help, I
encouraged you to try. For those who have tried this but still didn't work. My
heart goes out for you guys. Let us make then another recipe.
Stay in love married
ones and from now on we'll do things with so much passion for us not to fall
apart. We need not to be broken; we just have to take our time to accept each
other's differences, understand each other's weaknesses and grow together
bringing out each other's best.
