Marriage Meant Not to be Broken

When Mama Sita came home from tabada market, she said, "Ang bana ba sa ako ig-agaw nag-iring-iring man diay..."

Speaking of broken marriage, it's quite common today or maybe even in the past years. I'd prefer not to judge whoever on this kind of situation because there's no certainty what will happen on my own. Maybe a time will come or let's just say an incident will happen that would make both parties fall out of love. So what's next? Maybe too, it's time for me to comment no more. Just an imagination of being in a situation is quite tormenting. But, let me tell you wives out there of my own simple recipe. Hep, hep, hep, I know I'm not in the position to give a piece of something I'm not totally expert of. In fact it's just been about five years of being together sharing both good and bad. Wanna know? Anyway, I've been instilling this on my mind ever since that a husband behaves the way a wife does. There, the simple word behave. Put it into actions and maybe everything will turn out okay. We should learn also when to speak and when to just let ourselves close-lipped and try hearing them out. It's true, husbands are deadly beasts at times but we should be acquainted too of the art of taming. How? Drown them with our overflowing kindness.  Yes, marriage is way too complicated to talk about because the journey itself is not at all times smooth and easy to ride on. With so much intention, I won't talk much of love and respect here because I know these two are present at the start. Sustaining these is the trickiest part which I choose too not to dwell on more. Let me just bring you instead the word misunderstanding. It is one common reason why two people who started with so much love for each other will end up tearing each other apart. For others, it may just be a little thing so they care not to resolve before it gets worst. How I dealt with this? It may sounds not too common but what I usually do every time my husband and I have an argument to the extent of having me at the losing end, I just write a letter and put it somewhere he can easily find. In a piece of paper of any kind, I write how badly hurt I am and able to tell him of my own perception about any conflict without him seeing me cry. Now with facebook around, I need no more pen and paper to do so. I admit I'm not really good at expressing myself through speech and somehow I thanked God for having such weakness. This is so unsolicited I know, the fact that wives have different kinds of approach, views and attitudes but if things I mentioned above would be of little help, I encouraged you to try. For those who have tried this but still didn't work. My heart goes out for you guys. Let us make then another recipe.

Stay in love married ones and from now on we'll do things with so much passion for us not to fall apart. We need not to be broken; we just have to take our time to accept each other's differences, understand each other's weaknesses and grow together bringing out each other's best.