It is everybody’s felicity to be in a place where love vigorously matters. I myself is a great enthusiast of such atmosphere. Who in the world wouldn’t love watching people happy and smiling... with the absence of hatred, bitterness and jealousy? Where there is love, everything is at peace, stress-free and heavenly. Though we longed so much for that to take place every second of our lives, circumstances seemed to be so restless that in most occurrences things are not as we want it to be. Along the way, you’ll meet people whose personality screams trouble, whose faces look like cursing everything in sight, who easily gets into a fight without having second thought. Getting angry is always their cup of tea and smile is just a rare gesture. It’s like they’re living a life where happiness is far beyond reach. I did try to make myself believe that they behave the way they do because something wrong is up or they’re in a state of struggle. But hey!, no one is free of struggle because life itself has a knack of twisting any moment from happiness to total misery. That is exactly a verity beyond our control, accept it or not. Some are even unimaginable and beyond our capacity to understand too. There are times when you can hardly get yourself up but it doesn’t mean that treating others horribly would be the best or even the least of so many options. Understanding these people would take so much effort from one’s end and yes, they could drive everyone around them insane beyond thought. By any chance, have you had the disgrace meeting these kind of people? I bet you do because they’re just anywhere anyway and I should say they’re quite common in the workplace. Thank heavens, I am not connected to any right now. Getting myself out of the competitive world is not actually what I intended for but circumstances have now made it legible. But, it doesn’t make me less happy either. I may have no way with words as you can obviously see with this writing but I always have my own little ways of gratifying myself to what is freely given. I couldn't agree more that precious things in the world are free. You can hardly find it with your eyes alone, might as well include your heart. Remember, your eyes can't see everything. In an instance you can't see any, always have a second thought to feel it and savor at the same time. Anyway, I, too was able to bump a few outrageous beings, mostly during my employment periods. This may sound so typical but they are for most of us subordinates, “the horrible bosses”. It is somehow the pressure that causes them to act in such a manner which is more often than not understandable but let me tell you bosses out there, with or without your presence, pressure is always up. It may slow down but it’s there and allowing it to consume your whole being is not by all means fair. Consider this simple truth, any dying man never wishes to spend more time at work than with family. So loosen up. There is no human power that could eliminate pressure. If only there is, the world would have been a healthier place to live in. However, being outrageous gives no restriction to superiors alone because I also met some in neighborhood and among peers who acted exactly in the same approach. I have nothing against them though but the moment you hear them cursing to their hearts content, naming names, uttering words of humiliation, no one in their good disposition would just gladly accept it without any hint of disappointment. When life chooses you to be in acquaintance, work or even lived with these people, it is either you learn to develop that patience-stretching ability or simply fight back. The former one is obviously the harder way because you are fighting against no one but yourself. Trying intensely not to lose self-control, think rationally, and stood by your own frame of mind not to respond in a manner that would create chain of unhappy emotions. I once came across this line and now become my favorite, "shared grief is half the sorrow but when happiness is shared it is doubled". Enduring any unkind treatment is definitely a challenge. Mostly mild-tempered ones have the ability to do such a thing. Any untoward attack is dealt with in a diplomatic way like talking back as calmly as possible or even choose not to utter a single word. Ooops, I know what you are thinking and I know too that it’s different from what I had in mind. Keeping yourself close-lipped doesn’t mean you are weak or dumb for that matter, it actually shows how strong you are to absorb the bitchiness of whoever you encountered into. Instead of dwelling into that nasty situation, better yet ignore the bitchy form of creatures. Nothing is sweeter than to make them feel you’re not affected at all. Smile then, for it is simple gesture of good vibes and yes, it’s certainly contagious in a most harmless way and very addictive. With smile, you’ll never know a healing is formed instead of inner grudge. Furthermore, it is indeed a fact to see horrible people as disturbing and distressing but never allow their bad moods bring you down. Think of it as a trick, that despite their odd characters, there’s always a part of them that yells kindness. Little it may be but it’s a treasure to keep. Bring your focus to your own happiness and to people you love. There is more to the world than spreading hatred. And one more thing you shouldn’t miss doing, offer a prayer that they’ll wake up from their long time dream and learn to drop that nerve-wrecking attitudes. On the other hand, fighting back is well one easy task. I mean, I am talking here of the fighting a patient man won’t ever carry out. Just to be more vibrant, totally the opposite way like using same level of temper as the attack and even higher or worst the physical fight as slapping each other’s faces or fisticuffs thus causing a very undesirable scene. What a mess, really! I’ve seen such, many times that I can no longer count. Thinking of nothing but self-satisfaction, this is what it’s all about at any rate. It is somehow releasing that injurious feeling and getting even. But in effect, the consequence is always a miserable feeling... guilt and regret combined that will surely haunt you a lifetime. If you choose to behave this way, you are nothing but a wrecker of your own self. Everything is but self-turmoil that could have been avoided. So why choose to fight back? It is way much better to say nothing to avoid a more serious dispute or… smile as a way of respect and acknowledgment or… if your tongue is too itchy to utter a word, say it in a civil way. There’s no other way to stop harshness but to be gentle and nice in return.
It is not for me to speak these things about anyone but I half-heartedly can’t help it. I, personally can't say I have mastered patience-stretching but I can’t remember myself either in a serious brawling incident or maybe I just loose track. Hahaha. Sorry, amnesia attacks me at this very moment. With all honesty, it is my great joy to see people in general being pleasant human beings but let me tell you too that I am not blind of their follies and troubles. I admit, for the record, I am not an agreeable creature knowing I also have my own tantrums and shortcomings. Moreover, I am by far righteous but there is always that force that pulls me to act like one. And I must tell you, it is always awkward to hit someone else’s nerves while hitting my very own. It is really unlikeable feeling but thinking it would somehow help me as self-reminder of my own personal journey, to uphold peace and bring more merriment to the world, I won't mind any longer. Thus, I humbly ask you to bear with me if you happened to read this piece. I may responsible of this write-up but it doesn’t actually make myself free that I can't behave in a less amiable way. I too have wickedness running in my veins I should say, it’s just that I try hard to live everyday managing it, filled it instead with happiness. And happiness always goes with kindness. They’re best of friends in fact. One can’t go without the other. If you are in any way searching for happiness, be kind. It may only be a four-letter-word but it takes a willpower to share. Go spread kindness and kindness will come back to you in no time.
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